What are some (or one) of the things about which you usually don’t trust your own judgment, and need someone’s else’s confirmation?
Well this one was a great prompt as far as I am concerned. One I could immediately relate to. I have an opinion on everything but I’m a huge fan of second opinions, and barely buy or do anything – anything at all – without a “How does this look?” “What do you think?” to my shopping / planning partner at that point in time, usually my husband, often some other member of my family and occasionally , a friend.
I generally take second opinions and sometimes third ones too off and on, even an opinion poll…. whether it is a house we are deciding on, a school for my kids , a holiday destination, a menu for a dinner party, the weekend movie or just the dress for the evening function, I just love second opinions. If the answer is noncommittal, I force a choice by perseverance.
There’s a tiny catch though – and this is confession time! The final choice is always mine – I take the opinions but in the end stick to what appeals to me best. Am quite sure my second opinion givers would second that!
A typical conversation….Me: “Hey, which is better the red or the blue?”
Companion : “The red, definitely the red”
Me: OK… but I like the blue one on me.. I think I ‘ll take that !
Having said that the only place where I trust ONLY my judgement is when it comes to people and liking someone. Here, my heart tells me what I need to know and I just plunge headlong into a ” I love / like you – will do anything for you” And the ones I do not like for whatever reason often stay in that slot for a very long time. In this space it is vibes, a connect, a sixth sense, an unexplained comfort level that decides how I react.
In a nutshell I have a lot of respect for opinions but they are only to help me decide – just a sounding board as I bounce off choices . And for all matters of the heart, I am the captain of my ship. Good or bad, right or wrong I am intuitive when it comes to relationships. No second opinion there.
I rest my case.