Just checking!!!

Second Opinion

What are some (or one) of the things about which you usually don’t trust your own judgment, and need someone’s else’s confirmation?

sec opinion

Well this one was a great prompt as far as I am concerned. One I could immediately relate to.  I have an opinion on everything but I’m a huge fan of second opinions, and barely buy  or do anything  – anything at all – without a “How does this look?”   “What do you think?” to my shopping / planning  partner at that point in time, usually my husband, often some other member of my family and occasionally , a friend.  

I generally take second  opinions and sometimes third ones too off and on, even an opinion poll…. whether it is a house we are deciding on,  a school for my kids , a holiday destination, a menu for a dinner party, the weekend movie or just the dress for the evening function, I  just love second opinions. If the answer is noncommittal, I force a choice by perseverance.

There’s a tiny catch though  – and this is confession time! The final choice is always mine – I take the opinions but in the end stick to what appeals to me best. Am quite sure my second opinion givers would second that!


A typical conversation….Me: “Hey, which is better the red or the blue?”

Companion : “The red, definitely the red”

Me: OK… but I like the blue one on me.. I think I ‘ll take that !

Companion: Duh!

Having said that the only place where I trust ONLY my judgement is when it comes to people and liking someone. Here, my heart tells me what I need to know and I just plunge headlong into a ” I love / like you – will do anything for you” And the ones I do not like for whatever reason often stay in that slot for a very long time. In this space  it is vibes, a connect, a sixth sense, an unexplained comfort level that decides how I react.

In a nutshell I have a lot of respect for opinions but they are only to help me decide – just a sounding board as I bounce off choices . And for all matters of the heart, I am the captain of my ship. Good or bad, right or wrong I am intuitive when it comes to relationships. No second opinion there.

I rest my case.


17 thoughts on “Just checking!!!

  1. Sia-Discover Life August 11, 2014 / 7:16 am

    “Just Checking!!!” SO are you looking for a second opinion for this article as well? Hahaha…enjoyed reading it. Ultimately it is going to be our own decision which we are satisfied with. We look for supporters to our own decisions, whatever they are. 🙂

    Liked by 1 person

      • Sia-Discover Life August 11, 2014 / 7:24 am

        Well…we tried to point out the same in our article too…looking for a second, third or more maybe. True, it is mostly seen in women. And men follow out of compulsion….hahahah

        Liked by 1 person

    • ripplesnreflectiontimes August 11, 2014 / 7:47 am

      Thanks Amita ji….. though am not sure what WOKAY means … ha ha.. will take it that you liked it…no second opinion sought on that ….howzzat?


  2. Sia-Discover Life August 11, 2014 / 7:37 am

    Just enjoyed this conversation
    A typical conversation….Me: “Hey, which is better the red or the blue?”

    Companion : “The red, definitely the red”

    Me: OK… but I like the blue one on me.. I think I ‘ll take that !

    Companion: Duh!



  3. Anita August 11, 2014 / 7:41 am

    An interesting read…Have noticed that about you. As for me I only check for opinons on truly major decisions but with the everyday stuff I only trust me.

    Liked by 3 people

    • ripplesnreflectiontimes August 11, 2014 / 7:45 am

      Hey good to get an endorsement… so i was right, right? You and me seem to have a tad different views… and yes I to have noticed this about you. I guess almost half a century of association does that!!Thanks for stopping by.


  4. rajivkrishnan57 August 11, 2014 / 8:13 am

    I had rested my case on offering opinions to you (a duty that I am called on to perform very often) a long time back. “Opinion” and “concurrence” are two different things – you know what I mean.

    Jokes apart, you are exactly the way you have expressed what second opinions are to you. You must always remain the “Captain of YOUR ship” .

    Yet another sparkling diamond in your splendid necklace of expressions. Liked it very much.

    Liked by 1 person

    • ripplesnreflectiontimes August 11, 2014 / 4:23 pm

      Thank you….please carry on the (pleasant) duty for life….n btw, thanx for ur ‘ btw’ compliment!


  5. Soul n Spirit August 11, 2014 / 11:52 am

    Liked the sweet dialogue betwwen you and your companion…….It is another post which comes with goodies of an interesting blog. May you always remain captain of your ship.


  6. Prasanna August 11, 2014 / 10:26 pm

    Most of the times the men will be competing for the sofa in the shopping mall..contented with their newspapers or phones. Questions like ‘Does this look nice on me ?’ Is always answered very cautiously often searching our faces for the appropriate answer! As you rightly said a second opinion from them is a reconfirmation of the first (our own) opinion! Love the way you express yourself.


  7. suranch August 11, 2014 / 11:07 pm

    u hv expressed urself in a verrry sincere way. Lvd it


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